Mukha ka bang Hudas o Hudas ka Talaga?

I feel you rooster.

Do you know how to betray?

        Here are a few Yes or No or Pwede (parang pinoy henyo lang) questions that, by my experience, can tell if one is a potential God knows Hudas not pay.

 

·         Do you focus on what you get more than what you give?

If yes, you’re kinda selfish – that’s homo sapienish, we all have need for compensation.  But you’re a human being and being selfish makes you a “pakainin” sa mundo.  I’m not telling you to let your rights be stepped on – that’s spoiling people and it doesn’t help them grow – neglect.  I-protect mo ang sarili and needs mo but not on the risk of other people.  Our systems are meant to pay forward.  Own and invest in people, all they are, not just what they can give you.

·         Crush mo ba ang crush niya at depressed ka kasi mas close sila?

I’d define poverty mentality – it’s a thinking na ang kabutihan ni Juana ay kasiraan ni Tomas.  I suggest you’d rather be happy about the gains of your friend than bask on the sadness of your loss.  It’s not sacrifice.  Di mo naman ipinamigay ang syota mo.  I say be happy ‘bout other people’s achievements.  Madalas kasi we’re best in friendship kapag namomroblema sila and they need advice.  Uso maging doctor love sa pinas.  True friends rejoice with your joys.

·         Kinukwento mo ba sa ibang tao ang kakulangan niya?

Okay.  It might be that you’re asking for advice on how to deal with it.  Or it might be that you’re doing it just for the controversy – gi-ahak kang libakera ka.  Motives are like very loud sounds.  No matter how good you lip your lines, the motives clear all out.

·         Di mo ba siya kayang pahiramin ng T-shirt?

Kung may B.O. siya, I’m giving the benefit of the doubt that you’re friend enough to help about it or at least you’re planning to.  True friends stab you in the front.  Remember your rights – karapatan mong di mahawa sa B.O.  pero let’s talk about trust.  There are observable things, but without logical proof, marking someone as untrustworthy?  I’d say blamers doers.  How can you trust someone who can’t trust?   

·         Pinapakita mo ba ang tunay na ikaw?

Lying about big things starts in lying about small stuff.  I won’t talk about letting them know or not – that’s case to case.  But whether or whatever malaman nila, kung may ginawa ka mang masama o mabuti na tinago mo – kayo na ni Lord ang mag heart to heart talk jan.  Problema mo na rin kung nakakadagdag sa sakit ang pagiging mukhang Hudas.  Take this for one:  having an affair* with a friend’s family member is different from having an affiar* with your friend’s syota.

This post is not to condemn whoever felt bad in answering the questions.  If you feel like a potential betrayer by now, your conscience will work for you, not guilt.  At one point or another, anyway, anyone anywhere can be as dirty as we all are.  Last time I checked one remains completely righteous and he’s a Bible character – not you, not me.

I hope that everyone would learn to make building relationships a motive.  Wag maging hudas kahit nahudas ka.  Pag twice ka nang nahudas, consult a friend.  Maliwanag ang daan.  Ang tanging nadarapa ay ang mga naglalakad ng nakapikit.  Let’s see ourselves as what we could be – the hudas be unhudas and the hudasin be unhudasable.

When the power of love overcomes the love for power, the world will finally know peace.

~Jimi Hendrix~

*try looking up on the two affair links